Happy New Year! Like it always is this time of year, it is time to wipe the previous year off the book and look forward to the new one. I am going to make my first blog entry on a topic that I come across all time. I wish to urge all grooms to dance with their moms at their weddings!
I don’t want to sound like I’m preaching here. But as a DJ who has done nearly 1,000 weddings, I do notice something. You will always see the father/daughter dance, but many times you will not see the mother/groom dance.
I kinda get that. Let’s face it, guys! Many of us don’t really like to dance. We feel uncomfortable doing it. Myself, I love it. But I did take social dance lessons and was once a member of performing dance team. At the many weddings I do, I do notice that the guys are content to help hold up the bar. Nothing wrong with that!
But to get back to my topic. You moms out there correct me if I am wrong but as I see it, the groom/mother dance is a big deal. In a way, it is the mom’s way of telling her son that he has now transitioned from being her little boy to being her new daughter-in-law’s husband. It is a moment that she has looked forward to ever since the day he was little. It means a lot to her.
There is one thing I do say to the grooms whose weddings I work when I learn there will not be a mother/groom dance. If the reason is because his mom can not dance, does not like to dance, or (Heaven forbid) is not there, that is one thing. But if the reason is that the groom does not feel comfortable being out there on that dance floor with everyone watching, here is what I say.
Think ahead 30 years. By then, your mom will now be in her 70’s or later. Her hair will be gray and she will not be as strong as she once was. She may not even be able to walk without help. She might even be gone.
If you are willing face the regret at that time, then there is nothing I can say. But I hope you will not want to say “I should have danced with my mom”. Please take the three minutes or so and dance with your mom. You will be happy later that you did.